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Dear Lord Nrsimhadeva,
Please protect Your beloved devotees and keep them eternally safe at Your lotus feet.
Please Pray for Her Grace Ramadevi Dasi (ACBSP) Who is Dying of End-Stage Cancer in Mayapur Dhama.
Our humble obeisances to you. All glories to Srila Prabhupada.
I am writing on behalf of the group of carers who are serving Her Grace Ramadevi Dasi, Srila Prabhupada’s disciple and a long-standing resident of the Mayapur community, to inform the local and international devotees of Ramadevi’s state of health.
Some days ago, Ramadevi collapsed, and it was clear her condition had accelerated. Ramavijaya Prabhu arranged her swift transfer to the Calcutta hospital who had been treating her pre-lockdown. After an MRI and talks with the specialist doctors tending to Ramadevi, the diagnosis is that her condition is now terminal, and no treatment is possible.
Ramavijaya escorted Ramadevi home to Mayapur last night. She will be receiving 24-hour palliative care, and personal attendance, in the coming days.
Of course we are all still observing lockdown, most especially inside the campus, so there will be limited, scheduled visiting. There will be even more limited access to Ramadevi electronically, as she is in no condition to do so. We are asking, therefore, that all communications, questions, or messages for or about Ramadevi be posted via phone (+91 9775186307). Be assured that Ramadevi will receive every message sent, and ask that you please direct all communications this way.
In regard to the question that may arise of quarantine, Ramadevi and Ramavijaya travelled to the the Tata Cancer Hospital & Research Centre in Calcutta, who have strict protocols for Covid-19 screening, and no Covid-19 patients. They also returned to Mayapur via ambulance, so no quarantine is required.
Everyone please pray and chant for Ramadevi, remember her, and offer your loving support for her coming journey….
On behalf of the care team in Mayapur
Poem dedicated to
HH Bhakti Charu Maharaja
Brother of Gentle Demeanor
By Bhaktimarga Swami
Oh Brother of gentle demeanor,
I am your irrefutable junior.
When I look at all you’ve done,
Nothing short of making that home-run,
I am humbled by your limitless energy.
And now you leave us that memory,
Of absolute conviction to go,
Where a target receives a clean throw.
You aim your desires so right,
And anchor turbulence at a fight.
You offer a calm where there isn’t,
And subdue a storm you see as incumbent.
You go out of your way to cook for us,
At no inconvenience and with no fuss.
Last time you sat with me at Pune’s veranda.
(It could have been anywhere, even Uganda.)
You took the time to comfort, offer assurance.
When confusion prevails you present balance.
You are a gentleman so rare to find.
Even ruffians in your presence become kind.
You serve food daily to many, many children,
Fill bellies, fill hearts amounting to millions.
Vast attention comes running to you,
Especially when you put Prabhupada, centre in queue,
And set the tone with finesse and manners,
At such time when inclusiveness matters.
The world finds it hard that you’re suddenly gone,
Like the sun that’s up, then abruptly left for long-
Caregiver Stress and Burnout
The demands of caregiving can be exhausting and overwhelming—especially if you feel that you’re in over your head or have little control over the situation. But there are steps you can take to rein in stress and regain a sense of balance, joy, and hope in your life.
What is caregiver burnout?
While caring for a loved one can be very rewarding, it also involves many stressors. And since caregiving is often a long-term challenge, the emotional impact can snowball over time. You may face years or even decades of caregiving responsibilities. It can be particularly disheartening when there’s no hope that your family member will get better or if, despite your best efforts, their condition is gradually deteriorating.
If the stress of caregiving is left unchecked, it can take a toll on your health, relationships, and state of mind—eventually leading to burnout, a state of emotional, mental, and physical exhaustion. And when you get to that point, both you and the person you’re caring for suffer.
Helping Someone with Depression
Your support and encouragement can play an important role in your loved one’s recovery.
Here’s how to make a difference.
How can I help someone with depression?
Depression is a serious but treatable disorder that affects millions of people, from young to old and from all walks of life. It gets in the way of everyday life, causing tremendous pain, hurting not just those suffering from it but also impacting everyone around them.
If someone you love is depressed, you may be experiencing any number of difficult emotions, including helplessness, frustration, anger, fear, guilt, and sadness. These feelings are all normal. It’s not easy dealing with a friend or family member’s depression. And if you neglect your own health, it can become overwhelming.
For Those Who Are Grieving a Loss...
If you are grieving the loss of a loved one or friend, please accept our sincere condolences. We are truly sorry for your loss.
As you may have already experienced, there may be days when you want and need to spend more time alone and then there may be times when you need to speak about your feelings of loss and the deep sorrow you are undergoing. For those times when devotees wish to express their grief and loss with other Vaishnavas who are also experiencing the loss of someone dear to them, we have established our Vaishnavas CARE Grief Support Group on our Facebook page.
If you are interested in gaining the emotional and spiritual support of other Vaishnavas around the world who are also grieving a loss, please join us in our private and closed Vaishnavas CARE Grief Support Group on our Facebook Page (at "Vaishnavas CARE"). Please consider joining us so we can offer you the support you deserve.
Grieving the loss of a parent: it’s personal
End Of Life Care
by Jane Vock
Nancy Kriseman, author of The Mindful Caregiver, draws on the concept of “finishing well” to describe a way to approach loss. What does it mean to “finish well” and what is required of you as a caregiver, as a daughter or son, to do this? First off, it means working on your “unfinished business.” Alright, so what is that? For caregivers, it means when you are stuck in negative feelings about your caregiving situation and experiences such as guilt, anger, regret, resentment, etc. When stuck in these negative feelings, the natural flow of grieving is blocked and this can, in Kriseman’s words, “…wreak havoc on your mind, body, and spirit.”
Let go of all judgements and criticisms. Yes, all of them!
In truth, you did the best you could as a caregiver. Period. If you could have done better, you would have. Your parent also did the best they could. If they could have been a “better parent” or “better care receiver,” they would have. Period. This is a time to let go. If you are stuck in anger, guilt, or resentment, for example, the natural feelings of grief that typically come with loss become blocked. And in essence, you create more “unfinished business.”
Lessons From the Dying
A TEDxQueensU by Marie-Jo Cleghorn, Palliative Care Nurse
In Bhagavad-gītā As It Is (4.9), Lord Krishna says,
janma karma ca me divyam
evaṁ yo vetti tattvataḥ
tyaktvā dehaṁ punar janma
naiti mām eti so 'rjuna
"One who knows the transcendental nature of My appearance and activities does not, upon leaving the body, take his birth again in this material world, but attains My eternal abode, O Arjuna."
Excerpt from Purport:
Thus after attaining full Krishna consciousness, the devotee does not return to this material world after death. He goes back home, back to Godhead. That is the perfect stage of happiness, unblemished by any trace of distress.
For Caregivers Everywhere...
Thank you for everything you do, every day!
There is no right or wrong way to grieve, but there are healthy ways to deal with the grieving process. These tips can help.
What is grief?
Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your physical health, making it difficult to sleep, eat, or even think straight. These are normal reactions to loss—and the more significant the loss, the more intense your grief will be.
Coping With Grief & Loss
Any loss can cause grief, including the loss of a relationship, your health, your job, or a cherished dream. Learn how to better cope with what you’re feeling and process your emotions in ways
that allow you to heal.